Why communication is important

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Communication allows you to gain greater clarity that you didn’t have before.

It takes courage and practice to have good communication. If you have the openness and patience to work things out, you can realize and receive the benefits.

On the other hand, communication can also make you feel drained or burnt out at times. When you are communicating all the time and your message doesn’t seem to connect, you may feel a sense of feeling depleted or empty. Or you may feel like you over-communicate and have internal pressure within to feel like you are ‘on’ task and focused all the time to be the best communicator.

This comes from doing more than you feel you need to. You see this a lot with people taking a ‘break’ from Social Media. I have felt this myself with getting too many messages (including spam and bots) and too much information from Social Media. This gives me the awareness that I need to disconnect for a while, even if it means not checking my Social accounts for a couple of days.

Communicating with others through talking about your problems is human and normal. Keeping your thoughts and feelings inside can make you feel like you want to explode. It’s healthy to express your thoughts and feelings in a way that serves you — perhaps through journaling, talking, art therapy, painting, dancing, etc. so that it’s not running and ‘taking rent’ inside your head.

Keep doing what you need to do for yourself.

It’s ok to feel what you feel. You are human. Feeling emotions is natural; it’s ok to process and take the time and space that you need for you. Give permission to just feel even if others don’t understand. Do it for yourself and see what happens when you honour yourself first. Check-in with yourself and honour what comes up. Feeling the range of emotions allows you to be in touch with who you really are amidst all the external stimuli.

Communicating with yourself gives you the ability to have a dialogue with yourself so that you can see what is really going on inside. It gives you the opportunity to be aware of all the feelings that you are feeling without having to explain yourself to anyone. Being true to yourself allows you to get in touch with the parts of you that are uncomfortable; the parts of you that don’t always make the highlight reels on Social Media. The parts of you that are real.

Communicating with yourself helps take off some of the pressure when you’re having a conversation with yourself and by yourself. There is no one to provide commentary, give you advice, or tell you what they think. It takes the constant pressure of having to be something or someone that you’re not (in order to perhaps please others) and it allows you to just be you.

I heard this quote years ago and to this day, it still resonates: “You take yourself wherever you go.”

What if you could be at peace with yourself?

Can you have that conversation with yourself to be true to who you are and accept where you are in life?

Communicating with yourself means you can also uncover more information about yourself, perhaps information that you didn’t know because you were so busy with life and covering all the things that you didn’t want to acknowledge.
It takes courage to hold space for yourself first to go within. Once you can do this for yourself, you can then do it for others.

What if you could love and honour the parts of you that you don’t really want to acknowledge and bring them together to become whole again?

What would it look like to be genuine with yourself and see all the parts of yourself for what they really are without judgment, opinion or expectation?

The parts of you that you may not want to acknowledge are there to remind you that they also serve a purpose. These parts are coming up and asking you to go deeper within to heal those parts of you that need healing. In moments where the angry or frustrating parts of you come up, gently remind yourself that they are there to help you, even though it doesn’t always feel like it in those moments.

When the inner voices come up, see if you can get curious and have a conversation with these voices to see what they are trying to tell you. See if you can get more information by asking yourself, “What parts need to be healed? What do I need more of in this moment?”

If you don’t know what you need (as you may have not asked yourself this question before), see if you can tap into your body and just feel what is happening within by breathing or doing a body scan. Sometimes, giving our thinking brain a rest (thanks Yoga with Adriene) is just what we need to remind ourselves to feel and connect and align within.

It may not feel like it in moments of stress, though your stories of how you navigate internal and external challenges have the power to help others.

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